LADIES: It is our year to be the time wasters. Men have been the time wasters since creation. Join me in my solitude and #WasteHisTime2016.
— Yonz (@YonnaMalayshia) January 6, 2016
I really thought pettiness would take a short vacation after the new year, but I was mistaken. Silly me, I know.
When you tell him to pick you up at 8 but you go ghost at 7:50 and respond 3 hours later saying you were sleeping #WasteHisTime2016
— Druskii Dru (@DruskiiDruWorld) January 8, 2016
Just when I caught my breath from the #NewYearNewMe tweets that flooded my TL and soon-to-be-broken resolutions on Facebook and Instagram, a fresh wave of pettiness came in the form of #WasteHisTime2016.
When he leans in to kiss you, dab. #wastehistime2016 😂😂😂
— hadjaaaa (@CamsAlert) January 7, 2016
Before I say anything else, I want everyone to know how much I love Black Twitter. I think it’s incredible that so many people who have never met can bond over shared experiences so unique to us. We broke the internet over Christmas, Thanksgiving, for the Oscars, and on random days just because we wanted to talk about growing up Black and being Black on campus. Not to mention #MelaninOnFleek and #FlexinMyComplexion. I could go on, but you get the idea. It’s lit. And 2016 is no exception.
Tell him you can’t come over cuz you outta town then post snaps with your location on the screen #WasteHisTime2016
— Black Girl (@BLVCKMATTERS) January 7, 2016
From the very beginning, I was here for this. The shade, the sarcasm, the clapbacks, all of it. This, to me, is yet another way I can bond with people I’ve never met over shared experiences. I scrolled through every chance I got, thinking “You too, girl?” with many tweets and crying real tears over others. I laughed so hard because some of these situations had happened to me and my friends down to the letter. I finally knew that no, it’s not just me. With some tweets I could think of at least five guys who fit the description.
him: sends long paragraph me: ok #WasteHisTime2016
— al ◡̈⃝ (@aliesaIIy) January 7, 2016
As with anything that women do, especially Black women, there were some haters. The Boys of Twitter fired back with #WasteHerTime2016 almost immediately.
Date her for 5 years then when the marriage topic comes up tell her you’re afraid of commitment #WasteHerTime2016
— Snapchat: IHATEVA1 (@I_HATE_VA) January 6, 2016
— Shelby♡♡ (@OseiCanYouSee_) January 7, 2016
— Emma the Magnanimus (@7MMANUEL) January 8, 2016
Wanna know the irony of all of this? You know, besides the fact that some of these tweets are really just from #WasteHisTime2016 but with different pronouns…
Let’s ask Twitter.
it’s so funny to see guys get offended by #wastehistime2016 tweets when they’ve been wasting our time for years 😂😂😂
— chas® (@Chastity_T1) January 8, 2016
So when men say the #WasteHisTime2016 is why women don’t have a man I think they’ve missed the point. These are the things men do to women.
— Petty Powerhouse (@faithstweets_) January 7, 2016
Ah, the fragility of the male ego. It’s a wonder. So many men got hurt and offended by this trend when really…it was literally us pretending to be them. Same behavior, same dialogue, everything. And some of them, and even some women, were maaaad.
— Avery (@AFashionatto) January 7, 2016
On February 14th y’all gonna regret participating in #WasteHisTime2016
— 〽️Dr. ZiG⚡️ (@ZigZagSwag) January 7, 2016
— Kaylor Hodges (@KaylorHodges) January 7, 2016
This amuses me for a few reasons.
- Some men actually do believe that every woman who uses that hashtag will actually set out to waste some poor man’s time. They really do think we’re all that vindictive.
- The best clapback some of these dudes can come up with is “Keep it up and you’ll be single for Valentine’s Day.” This just means I won’t have to share my chocolate with anyone, so honestly I’m not pressed.
Thankfully, some men get the point of the hashtag.
After reading the tweets with the hashtag #WasteHisTime2016, I ain’t realize how much hurt we put you ladies through. I’m Sorry.
— Pastor West (@Pastor__West) January 7, 2016
Some argue that petty actions like this are what’s wrong with our generation and will keep us from finding love in the future. Do I think it’s true? Maybe. Am I still here for this trend? Absolutely. And if means that some guys get their feelings hurt after getting a taste of their own medicine, then that’s fine too. After all, change doesn’t come from a place of comfort.
The bar has been set pretty high for the year in less than ten days. I can’t wait to see what’s next.